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April 17, 2017

To the Woman With Father Wounds

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I was wasting time on Facebook when my emotions made an unannounced visit.  Out of nowhere they instigated the worst ugly cry of 2017.  There I was, innocently scrolling through images when I stumbled across an article about Simone Biles and Sasha Farber’s waltz to You’re A Good Good Father on Dancing with the Stars.

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April 10, 2017

What To Do When God is Silent

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As much as I hate to admit it, I have trust issues.  Showing up at the most undesirable times, they’ve caused me to question my friends, my spouse, and even GPS.  Generally, I’m okay as long as there is some form of communication, but it’s in the silence when I start to lose it.

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March 31, 2017

What To Do When You’ve Been Betrayed

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At some point, it happens to everyone.   While minding our own business someone unsuspectingly betrays us. And just like that, we are left  breathless in a fog of disbelief.  

“Did this really happen?” we question, though we already know the answer. It did.  

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December 20, 2016

When Life Is Unresolved

December 20, 2016 | By | 8 Comments

I just love closure. Don’t you?

The End of an Argument

A Paid Off Bill

A Happy Ending

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July 27, 2016

Digging Deeper Episode 4: The Essence of Forgiveness

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Forgiveness is an act we will all need to be the recipient of at some point in our lives.  When we need to offer forgiveness to someone who has wronged us it can be very difficult.  Can you relate?  If so check out the next episode of Digging Deeper on The Essence of Forgiveness.

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July 18, 2016

6 Practical Suggestions to Improve Your Prayer Life

July 18, 2016 | By | 14 Comments

I’m inconsistent by nature.  A BIG idea person and an excellent starter I struggle to be a finisher.  This has been gravely evident in my prayer life.

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July 11, 2016

5 Questions White & Black People Must Ask

July 11, 2016 | By | 6 Comments

Up until about 5 years ago everyone in my immediate circle was of the same race. I graduated from a historically black college, went to work in an all black elementary school, attended a predominantly black church, and had no white friends or associates.   My life was segregated, safe and familiar.

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July 7, 2016

Why We Don’t Have a Race Problem in America

July 7, 2016 | By | 34 Comments

No matter how you frame it, talking about race is uncomfortable.  I would much rather sit in a circle, hold hands and sing We Are the World, than write this post, but I deem it necessary.  The recent police shooting of Alton Sterling linked arms with a personal experience and I feel compelled to talk about what we are facing in America.

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December 21, 2015

3 Things to Remember When Christmastime is Difficult

December 21, 2015 | By | 22 Comments

No one wants to admit that sometimes Christmastime is neither merry nor bright.  We rather dwell on scents of pine, twinkling lights, and winter wonderlands.  I am no different.

I grew up romanticizing the holiday classics.  Movies like Miracle on 34th Street, and It’s a Wonderful Life made this season all the more magical for me.  I was wooed well into adulthood by the idea of happily ever after:  boy meets girl, problems are solved, and everyone gets what they want in the end.  

However, Christmas seems to magnify the tough reality that many people are lonely, problems remain unresolved, and everyone does not get what they want.   In fact, tucked just below the subconscious is a truth we don’t want to acknowledge about our beloved holiday.  Sometimes, Christmas can be difficult.

A loved one dies.

A marriage ends.

A job is lost.

A child is sick.

Money is scarce.

Families members are at odds with each other.  

Situations linger threatening our holly jolly demeanor.  Like weeds, seeds of sadness spring up and intermingle with our desire to be happy at Christmas.  Often these seeds bloom into discouragement, despair, and sometimes depression, forcing us to marry the desired ideal with the present reality.  

Questions of when, how, and if things will change bombard our minds.  At a time when we want everything to be perfect we must acknowledge it isn’t.   Even still, when we find ourselves in this difficult place, there are three things we can remember.

#1 The First Christmas, Though Beautiful, Was Difficult

Manger scenes depict the birth of Christ omitting the obvious challenges.  Mary endured labor on a road trip, birth in a stable, and delivered a baby with a bounty on his head.  And yet, in the midst of a less than ideal situation, the Savior of the world was born.  When life is difficult, the presence of Christ, enables us to see our circumstance with an eternal perspective.

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# 2 Hope is Not Subject to Conditions

 This hope is resilient, persevering in the face of extreme obstacles.  It is a hope that compels us to believe in:

Healing for the sick,

Reconciliation for the separated,

Joy for the broken, and

Grace for the imperfect.

This hope prevails in the face of all adversity.

# 3 Christmas Is About Christ

Man’s narcissistic obsession with ourselves has duped many into believing the lie that Christmas is about us: it is not.  Agendas, ideals, and wants, inhibit our view.  Intuitively, we know it’s about Christ, but instinctively we live otherwise.

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  This love drove Him to send Christ into the world to die for the sins of all mankind.  

When life is difficult at Christmastime we can look to Christ.  He alone can handle the pain of our circumstances.  With him we are empowered to exchange:

Despair for hope,

Sorrow for Joy, and

Pain for Peace.

If you are in the midst of of a difficult circumstance this Christmas know that the enduring love of God is sufficient and extended to you.

“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”  1 Corinthians 12:9 (NIV)

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