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Kia Stephens


May 1, 2017

How to Live a Life Worth Dying For

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“I’m not afraid to die,” said a good friend of mine with ease.  

Unlike many, she had already stared death in the face and won:  having been diagnosed, treated, and pronounced cancer free.  Like a soldier returning from battle she had wrestled with mortality in a way that was foreign to most.

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Kia Stephens


December 20, 2016

When Life Is Unresolved

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I just love closure. Don’t you?

The End of an Argument

A Paid Off Bill

A Happy Ending

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Kia Stephens


December 16, 2016

Following God When It Doesn’t Make Sense

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In this live stream hangout I discusses the difficult topic of “Following God When it Doesn’t Make Sense” with Maya Dawson.  Maya candidly shares her tug of war with God after loosing her mother and father in a two year period and then battling cancer. Read More

Kia Stephens


November 19, 2016

Raising Kids Without Fathers

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In this live stream hangout Kia Stephens of the Father Swap Blog will discuss Raising Kids Without Fathers with Lisa Appelo of . If you are a single mom or a daughter who was raised in a single parent household you don’t want to miss this intimate discussion.

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Kia Stephens


June 26, 2016

3 Things to Remember in Uncertain Times

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It started as a routine trip to Six Flags.  Don’t judge me, but I was content to lay out in the sun, bury my head in a book, and let my children run around the water park unattended. Things were going as planned until I finished my first read and was so SIKED about the ending I decided to tell the mama next to me (whom I have never met before).

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Kia Stephens


June 20, 2016

Exposing the Root Cause of Daddy Wounds

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I have a confession.  If given large amounts of freedom – void of the responsibility to feed, clothe, or take care of anyone or anything – I have been known to binge watch old TV shows all day long. I’m not proud of it, but I do own my periodic plunge into laziness.

It’s the storyline that plants me in between pillows.  A sucker for suspense, one hour becomes four as I try to figure out “who dun it”.  Most intriguing are the unsuspecting plot twist I didn’t see coming.

Confidently, I think the business partner is the culprit, only to discover it was actually the mistress.  Each subsequent episode lures, baits, and keeps me glued to a screen wanting to know the outcome.  I am not alone.  

We are a generation of cats killed by curiosity, slayed by the need to know what happens next.  However, this absorption with fictitious situations keeps us from realizing the greatest plot is the one we’re living.  Reality has been reduced to the daily grind, periodic success, events, and conversations, but this is just the subplot of a much larger story.

Set in motion before our birth was the battle between good and evil, heaven and hell, and God and Satan. I say this with the realization that we live in a practical-teaching-megachurch-age, where words like demonic have almost been omitted from the vocabulary of the average church goer. Many of us find it easier to acknowledge the existence of an omniscient God without embracing the reality of a diabolical enemy.  

When we do acknowledge his presence it is often tainted by Hollywood’s interpretation teetering between extremes.  Either he’s the man in a red catsuit with horns perched on the shoulder of an indecisive actor, or he’s a quick witted super hero fighting crime in an Italian suit.  Neither persona is accurate, duping us into believing Lucifer is predictable, likable, and not that bad. The Bible, on the other hand, gives an opposing perspective of our adversary.


Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.

1 Peter 5:8 NIV

He was a murderer from the beginning, not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies.

John 8: 44 NIV


When measured against the word of God there is absolutely nothing nonthreatening about him. He is described as a deceiver, a hunter and a killer whose sole purpose is to annihilate his prey, us.  And he will stop at nothing to accomplish this task.  

Satan is the proverbial below the belt hitter.  If given the opportunity, he has the power to impact every area of our lives: that childhood hurt, lingering habits, dangerous temptations, weight loss (or the lack of it), hang-ups, sweet tooths, jobs, and relationships.  And if you’re carrying an unhealed crater-sized wound from your father, he had a hand in that too.

  According to The Washington Times, “Sociologists say it’s common for people to perceive that God is like the fatherly figures in their lives. If dad is caring, patient and concerned, then children will believe God has those same characteristics. And the opposite holds true when a father is harsh, judgmental or absent.”

This is the perfect smoke screen, masterful plan, and hidden schema daughters are blinded to as they endure difficult and nonexistent relationships with their daddies.  It is not coincidental that countless numbers of women have father daughter relationships plagued by: death, abuse, abandonment, incarceration, drug addiction, distance, divorce, and the like.  There is a supernatural plot in play that substantiates why this epidemic is so pervasive.

So the question becomes what should our response be?  You may think your battle is with your daddy, but it is not. You, alone are not powerful enough to change your father or your relationship with him.  The difficult truth is that he may never change.  It is not up to you, but God.  

Tucked within the pages of scripture is explicit instruction on dealing with difficult relationships.

“For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground. . .

Ephesians 6: 12 – 13 (NIV)

When it comes to overcoming daddy wounds, we must be like parasites gleaning from God’s well of life giving sustenance. Our communication with Him must be constant, expressing the ups and downs in this journey through I -can’t-make-it without-you-prayer. Most importantly, our resolve must be cemented, armed with the knowledge that although we have a very real opponent, we have a victorious God who has already won the battle on our behalf.

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